My First Million

How he turned his dad’s bakery into a $20B chocolate empire

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At-a-Glance

  • Verdict: Skim
  • Core thesis: Ferrero turned inexpensive, ordinary confectionery into enduring global brands by changing form factors, packaging, naming, and social meaning—not merely by improving chocolate—and the episode extends that lesson into broader reflections on exposure, curiosity, and character.
  • Why it matters: The Ferrero segment offers a reusable consumer-product playbook: solve friction in the product experience, make the object feel special, and position it as a social ritual; however, the rest is a wide-ranging conversational episode rather than a focused operating analysis.
  • Best use: Use the Ferrero discussion as brand and product-design inspiration, then selectively sample the parenting, curiosity, and resilience sections rather than watching the full 46-minute conversation.

Executive Summary

The strongest business argument is that Ferrero built a generational confectionery empire by repeatedly changing how familiar products are experienced. Postwar chocolate was expensive and difficult to use as an everyday food, so Ferrero moved from a hard chocolate spread to a creamy, jarred product that became Nutella. Later, Tic Tac made breath mints portable, hygienic, sharable, and socially useful; Ferrero Rocher made mass confectionery feel giftable and premium through its gold-wrapped presentation.

The hosts frame these as examples of competing on a new dimension rather than on technical product performance. Like Touchland turned sanitizer into a purse-worthy, scented accessory, Ferrero turned candy into a ritual and status cue. The company subsequently paired product invention with secrecy around recipes and manufacturing machinery, then evolved in its third generation from internal innovation toward acquiring and revitalizing established brands such as Butterfinger, Baby Ruth, and Crunch.

The conversation then shifts to a theory of early-life specialization: people who receive meaningful exposure and freedom to obsess during a supposed "golden window" of childhood may develop unusual long-run advantage. The hosts ultimately favor broad, high-quality exposure over forcing children into narrow, high-pressure training, illustrated by a father bringing his son into business meetings and supplier trips.

The final section is a personal reflection on former producer Ben Wilson's stage-four cancer diagnosis. The hosts distinguish achieving greatness from being great: Wilson's composure, faith, journaling practice, and practical response to crisis are presented as evidence that everyday character is preparation for adversity. It is emotionally substantive but not directly connected to the Nutella title or to business execution.

Key Takeaways

  • Claim: Nutella emerged from a seemingly minor usability change: converting a hard chocolate product into a genuinely spreadable jarred cream made chocolate more compatible with ordinary daily consumption. | Evidence: Ferrero's founder initially tried a hard, butter-stick-like chocolate intended for toast, but customers found it difficult to spread; the company shifted to a creamy jar product called Super Crema, which the next generation reformulated and renamed Nutella after hazelnuts became central to the product. | Implication: Look for mundane moments of user friction—opening, carrying, applying, sharing, or storing—where a format change can expand a product's usage occasions more effectively than marginal feature improvement. | Caveat: The story is narrated informally and does not provide independent market-share, pricing, or sales data tying the format change alone to Nutella's success.
  • Claim: Ferrero's real differentiation was often social and symbolic, not just functional: it made small consumables feel like gifts, icebreakers, and premium objects. | Evidence: Tic Tac solved the bulky tin, difficult opening, and unhygienic sharing problem with a pocket-sized plastic case; its advertising reportedly showed one person offering another a Tic Tac and used the prompt "Tic Tac?" to make it a social gesture. Ferrero Rocher used gold wrapping and elaborate presentation to signal occasion, luxury, and giftability. | Implication: For consumer products, evaluate the emotional and interpersonal job alongside the functional job: a product can gain pricing power and memorability when it helps users offer, display, gift, or signal something.
  • Claim: Small packaging signals can reposition a commodity into a premium experience. | Evidence: The hosts compare Ferrero Rocher's gold-wrapped "nuggets" with Touchland's transformation of utilitarian Purell-like sanitizer into a scented, attractive purse accessory, and with San Pellegrino's foil seal, which Rory Sutherland interpreted as signaling cleanliness, freshness, and specialness. | Implication: Treat packaging, tactile cues, seals, naming, and presentation as part of the product itself. They can create a separate axis of competition when core functional differences are hard for customers to perceive. | Caveat: The examples support a design heuristic, not a universal rule; premium signaling must remain credible relative to actual product quality, price, and category expectations.
  • Claim: Ferrero survived across generations by changing its growth engine: founder experimentation, second-generation product innovation, then third-generation portfolio acquisition and revitalization. | Evidence: The hosts characterize the first generation as an early pioneer, credit the second with Nutella, Tic Tac, and other innovations, and describe the third generation as adopting a Warren Buffett-like acquisition approach, buying brands including Butterfinger, Baby Ruth, and Crunch. They state the company generates roughly $20 billion in annual revenue and remains family controlled and highly secretive. | Implication: A durable company need not rely forever on the capability that created it. Leadership transitions can deliberately shift the firm from invention to compounding through acquisitions when internal hit rates are uncertain. | Caveat: The segment does not assess acquisition returns, turnaround outcomes, debt levels, or whether Ferrero's reported revenue and family-wealth figures are current.
  • Claim: Early exposure and sustained practice may create exceptional advantage, but the more useful parental strategy is broad exposure rather than coercive specialization. | Evidence: The hosts cite Warren Buffett buying stock at age seven, MrBeast deciding young to pursue YouTube, Bill Gates and Paul Allen receiving unusually early computer access, and Lamine Yamal entering a soccer academy around age seven. They also reference investor Mohnish Pabrai's view that ages roughly six to 16 are a "golden window," while explicitly backing away from harsh forced training. | Implication: For talent development, create repeated real-world exposure, access to tools, and room for self-directed obsession; do not infer that elite outcomes require a rigid or punitive training regime. | Caveat: The argument is largely anecdotal and selection-biased: visible elite performers are not proof that early specialization causes success, and the hosts acknowledge they do not fully believe the deterministic version of the theory.
  • Claim: Curiosity is presented as both an interpersonal operating skill and a way to reduce self-judgment under stress. | Evidence: After describing an unusually humble, AI-literate financial-services billionaire, the hosts argue that genuine interest in others makes people feel important without manipulation. They propose asking questions such as "What are your hobbies?" and asking about parents; one host also says a coach's instruction to get curious about painful feelings is more useful than simply trying to feel better. | Implication: Use curiosity as a default leadership behavior: it improves conversations, surfaces overlooked ideas from people regardless of status, and can turn defensive emotional reactions into inquiry.
  • Claim: Greatness should be evaluated as conduct under pressure, not only as external achievement. | Evidence: Former producer Ben Wilson, diagnosed with stage-four lung cancer affecting his spine and brain, reportedly moved closer to care, organized estate matters, raised approximately $400,000, and began a "Zero to 365" journal to document each day with the goal of filling a year. The hosts contrast his composure, faith, and dignity with achievement-oriented aspirations such as wealth or recognition. | Implication: Build habits of composure, responsibility, and attention to what matters before a crisis. They are not merely moral ideals; they are the behavioral infrastructure that determines how someone responds when circumstances cannot be controlled. | Caveat: This is a personal account of a serious active medical situation; it should be read as a reflection on values and resilience, not as evidence about prognosis or medical treatment.

Detailed Brief

Ferrero's defensibility and brand-system logic

  • Claims: Ferrero's secrecy was portrayed as an operational choice, not a marketing gimmick: the company guarded both recipes and proprietary production methods.; The hosts see the company as a compelling example of a large, family-controlled business hidden in plain sight—widely consumed but rarely examined by customers.; The family appears to have emphasized work and craft over conspicuous wealth in its internal culture, though this is discussed only through anecdote.
  • Evidence: The company reportedly avoided interviews and factory access until only four or five years before the discussion; a journalist compared access controls less to Willy Wonka and more to Area 51, including armed guards.; The hosts say Ferrero builds its own chocolate-production machinery and therefore protects the engineering as well as product recipes.; One heir reportedly said he did not realize the family was wealthy until age 15, which the hosts interpret as a possible consequence of being raised around factory work and products rather than wealth displays.
  • Caveats: The account supplies no detailed evidence that secrecy itself caused Ferrero's commercial performance, versus merely protecting an already successful business.; The intergenerational family-culture observations are speculative and should not be generalized from one family anecdote.
  • Implications: Where production know-how is genuinely differentiating, intellectual-property protection can include process architecture and equipment design—not merely patents, trademarks, or formulas.; For enduring family enterprises, governance and successor formation may be as important as product strategy, even though the episode does not provide a transferable governance model.

Exposure over scripted education

  • Claims: The hosts argue that conventional schooling may constrain discovery by placing children on a standardized path before they learn what work or craft naturally attracts them.; Their preferred intervention is to let children observe consequential adult work and then invite their interpretation, rather than expecting immediate sophisticated participation.
  • Evidence: They describe entrepreneur Ramon van Meer taking his son Victor, from a young age, to major business meetings, a company-sale trip, and manufacturing visits in China; afterward, he would ask Victor whether a counterparty seemed credible or what decision he would make.; The hosts emphasize that children may not give insightful feedback at the moment, but regard repeated exposure as experience that is "soaking" into later intuition.
  • Caveats: No evidence is offered that this approach outperforms school-based development, nor are practical issues such as school disruption, child interest, privacy, or parent-child power dynamics addressed.
  • Implications: If applying this principle, prioritize access to varied contexts and reflective debriefs over optimizing for polished child performance or immediate measurable outcomes.

Notable Concepts & Terms

  • Super Crema: Ferrero's earlier jarred chocolate-hazelnut spread; it illustrates the pivotal shift from a hard, inconvenient form to a spreadable everyday format before the Nutella name.
  • Tic Tac? social prompt: The hosts' description of advertising that turned an ordinary breath mint into an offer, icebreaker, and lightweight social exchange.
  • Premium signaling through packaging: The idea that gold wrapping, foil seals, scent, visual design, and container form can make an otherwise commodity-like product feel clean, special, giftable, or status-bearing.
  • Hidden in plain sight business: A massive but under-analyzed company whose products are familiar to consumers while its ownership, economics, and operating model remain obscure.
  • Golden window: The hosts' label for the roughly ages six to 16 period in which access, intense interest, and repeated practice may accelerate specialization; they present it as a useful but non-deterministic theory.
  • Exposure over forced specialization: The preferred child-development approach in the episode: expand the menu of real-world experiences so a child can discover genuine pull toward a field.
  • Curiosity as a catch-all cure: A proposed practice of replacing judgment or forced positivity with inquiry, both to connect with other people and to investigate one's own negative reactions.
  • Being great vs. achieving greatness: The episode's distinction between accumulating visible accomplishments and showing dignity, integrity, and courage through day-to-day conduct, especially during crisis.

Operator Notes / Why Ken Should Care

  • Run a product-friction audit for any consumer-facing offering: identify whether carrying, opening, using, sharing, storing, or gifting it creates avoidable friction, then test a format redesign before investing in feature expansion.
  • For physical-product or premium-brand work, explicitly brief packaging as a behavioral and symbolic system: define the desired signal, ritual, and social context—not just shelf visibility and cost targets.
  • When evaluating consumer-brand acquisitions, separate the source of value into brand equity, distribution, packaging/form-factor potential, and operational improvement; do not assume a recognizable legacy brand is revivable without evidence.
  • Design a recurring exposure practice for children or junior talent: invite them into selected real decision contexts, then debrief with open-ended questions rather than testing them for correct answers.
  • Adopt a curiosity prompt for tense conversations and adverse events: ask what is happening, what changed, what assumptions are active, and what can be learned before moving to judgment or solution mode.
  • Treat the final cancer discussion as a reminder to maintain practical contingency readiness—estate, insurance, family documentation, and support networks—rather than as merely inspirational content.

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0:00

I got to bleep this out, but then he's extremely multi-billionaire. Extremely multi-billionaire. Extremely.

0:14

Sam, I have here in front of me a letter that I need to read for you. So I open the mail and I see an invitation like this to a graduation. And I think, that's not my cousin. That's not my nephew. Who is this? Dear Sean, my name is Quentin Wood. I've been listening to MFM since 2021. Over the last five years, you and Sam's podcast has made a huge impact on my life, shaping how I see the world, investing in stocks, my goals, my life. Your podcast brought me a lot of joy and helped me through long runs and study sessions. You and Sam have directed my life for the better, so thank you. I'm a high school senior this year.

0:49

And because of the profound impact you've made on my life, I want to invite you to my graduation and graduation party. He lives in Colorado. Thank you for taking the time to read this and everything you do. Keep making more episodes. Sincerely, Quentin Wood, high school senior. Baller. Isn't this amazing? Baller. Congrats, Quentin. Take a bow, Quentin.

1:13

Take a bow, Quentin. How good is that, man? I love this kid.

1:20

If you're under the age of 24, you should do some of these things that might sound insulting. As we said, that's endearing. Or I would never say that's cute. But you feel that emotion. You should 100% embrace doing those things because you can only get away with this for a very small time. And it's totally appropriate and totally awesome. It's like poop in your pants. You can only do it for so long. And then you can do it later in life. But this type of stuff 100% is awesome. And by the way, a bunch of people have written letters, but just inviting us to the high school graduation was so endearing. I just thought, I was like, oh, that's so wonderful.

1:54

And Diego was like, so we're going to go? I was like, no, hell no. We're definitely not going. But I will play him the song and give him the clap. This is great. Okay, I want to tell you about this business story that, to me, this is a Billy of the Week. So this is a billionaire family that I found really fascinating. I've been into these family dynasties. Last week, I think we were talking about Cargill. And this one is— Wait, I want to try and guess these. I like trying to guess. Let me give you a couple of clues so you know which direction you're going. The richest man in Italy. Sunglasses or chocolate? Chocolate. Okay. Do you know who it is? Yeah.

2:43

Roche, is it called Roche something? Ferrero Roche. Yeah. So, okay, well, you got that pretty quick. It's a lot less fun when you just know the answer, huh? If I was a teacher, I would just be like, well, fine. Teach yourself then. And walk out of the glass. Dude, this family story is amazing. So I love Ferrero Roche, the chocolate. I don't know if you're a fan. Do we have one? Oh, here. So, for those who don't know, I have some here. I got this from the grocery store this morning because I was so inspired by these guys. I was like, I'm going to go support their small business. Yeah, he bought local. He's worth $32 billion. So these chocolates are kind of amazing.

3:24

The packaging is amazing. If you've ever had one of these, you really feel like you're eating something special. And that got me kind of interested in, what's the backstory of this? Turns out this family invented Nutella. They invented Tic Tacs. They invented a whole bunch of Kinder, the Kinder bars and Kinder eggs. They invented several of these really big things. And now they own a whole bunch of other businesses. So I want to tell you the story of this company. It's one of the most secretive family-owned businesses in the world. They do $20 billion a year in revenue. The founder, the main guy, the heir, he runs the company and is the richest man in Italy.

3:56

And the way they did it, it's really fascinating. So back in the day, this was right after World War II. Italy, which was not in great shape post-World War II, was trying to bounce back. And so this guy, the grandfather of this guy, decides, I'm going to start making chocolate. Chocolate was really expensive. It was this luxury item. It wasn't a common thing you found at every store. Not everybody was eating it. And so he starts, but he had the form factor wrong. He was trying to make a bar, like a spread. So it's like butter. It would be this kind of hard chocolate, like a butter stick, essentially.

4:39

And his idea was, people will put this on toast and you'll have chocolatey toast. And I think at the time, chocolate was like the equivalent of caviar. If you went to a fancy dinner party, you would see it. And if I remember correctly, I don't even think it tasted nearly like it tastes now. It wasn't like— They've just added butter and sugar over the years to the mix. Because if you have a cacao bean or cacao powder, it's bitter. It's very bitter, right? So you really have to butter and sugar it up. So he tries the bar. People don't like it. They're complaining. They're like, it's too hard. It doesn't spread easily. So he's like, okay, I got to solve the spread problem.

5:16

And he comes up with a jar with creamy chocolate, like a jam, basically. And it's like a precursor to Nutella. It wasn't quite Nutella yet. But the idea was to make it super spreadable, put it in a jar. And it was called Super Crema. And so he starts trying to sell Super Crema. And it's doing okay. It's him. He's the chef. And he's just trying to make delicious pastries, basically. And he's got the brother who's the business side. And they're doing all right. Not great. But over time, the son takes over. And the son is a bit more of an innovator. So first, I think the government bans the use of crema in the name. So he's got to rebrand it anyway.

5:52

And he decides to call it Nutella. And it was because hazelnuts are a big ingredient in the thing. And he makes it. He tweaks the recipe, makes it better. And the son starts innovating. He gets in the lab. And he basically creates— He notices that breath mints are great, but there are all these problems. They come in these big tins, hard to carry around, right? This big giant rectangle. To open it up, you had to kind of find the seam and pop it open. And then, if you wanted to share it with somebody, they had to dig through, touch all of them. And so he creates the Tic Tac form factor. Way easier to open, smaller box, smaller form factor.

6:22

And the ads were all like one person's hand out and then putting a Tic Tac in. And it was basically like a Tic Tac was almost like a social gift. It was a social icebreaker, something you want from somebody else. So carrying it was almost like a thing of power. These old Tic Tac ads are so good. If you Google vintage Tic Tac Italian ads, the old ads are pretty awesome. A lot of the ads would have a question mark, which you would not normally do. You wouldn't say, Tic Tac? But the whole thing is basically an offer to somebody else. And it's just a way to be smooth. It's small talk for the mouth. Was Tic Tac the original name?

6:59

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7:35

And then he's like, we've talked about Touchland Soap, this woman who sold this company for, I think, $800 million or something recently. And what she does is she took Purell hand sanitizer, this utilitarian, ugly product, and she made it look like women's perfume. And it came in different scents. We have a database of all of the business ideas that have been discussed on this podcast. The team at HubSpot went through hundreds of episodes. They pulled out all the simple, relatable, interesting, profitable ideas that we have brainstormed. They're all available for download for free. Just click the link in the description below.

7:59

Thank you to our friends at HubSpot for sponsoring this podcast and putting together this free resource for you guys. Back to the show. Yeah, so Tic Tac was a brilliant name also. And it starts getting used in movies because the name is fun to say.

8:14

And then he's like, we've talked about Touchland Soap, this woman who sold this company for, I think, $800 million or something recently. What she does is she took Purell hand sanitizer, this utilitarian, ugly product, and she made it look like women's perfume. It came in different scents, and it was all hand sanitizer, but something small you'd want to carry in your purse that looked cool, smelled great, and didn't just compete in a different dimension than hand sanitizer. Not trying to kill more germs per second, but saying your hands aren't going to smell like ethanol at the end of this, right?

8:20

So then you have the Ferrero Rocher packaging, where it's these golden nuggets, these special things that are put into this. Just brilliant all around in terms of how they did the marketing genius behind some of these things.

8:29

So the brand takes off. It's doing really, really well. He's an innovator. And now they're super secretive. I think up until four or five years ago, they had never done an interview. They had never let anyone into the factory. It was on some real Willy Wonka shit. One journalist who got in was like, this is actually less like Willy Wonka. It's more like Area 51. There were armed guards because they build their own machinery to produce the chocolate, so they didn't want anyone to know the engineering behind their machinery, the recipes behind Nutella. They didn't want anyone to know anything. And they weren't really even using it for marketing purposes. The grandfather, in all the photos of him, you'll see he's wearing dark sunglasses. He just never wanted to be seen, never wanted to be known. Only very recently did they start doing anything.

8:37

And so then you have the grandson, the third gen. Gen one was the pioneer trying to make it happen. It was kind of like pioneers get slaughtered, then the settlers do whatever, then the townspeople build the empire. It's kind of that same thing. He didn't really make it, but the son had the breakthrough innovations. And then that guy's son took on a totally different strategy. He went Warren Buffett. He was basically like, all right, inventing these products is really hard, really expensive, really low hit rate. What if we went and found value brands that we could turn around? So he went and bought Butterfinger and Baby Ruth and Crunch and all these brands, acquired them, tried to revitalize the brand, and then bring them back. So he's built this portfolio of other brands now, and he took an M&A approach.

8:39

And I just thought, what's the Italian word for private equity? Because that's what these guys do. This is some beautiful private equity that I've been seeing in play here for the last 80 years. I bought a Butterfinger last night. I freaking love Butterfinger. I feel old, but I did. Just me, myself, and Sam having a Butterfinger, or what? I went to the CVS and I got the movie-style candy. You know how they put movie-style candy in the box with mini Butterfingers? I totally had a whole box by myself last night. So I'm on board with this guy. I don't like Butterfinger. Love Crunch. Baby Ruth, by the way, not named after Babe Ruth. It's not?

8:52

No. It's named after Ruth Cleveland, the daughter of President Grover Cleveland. Oh, is Babe Ruth, the baseball player, named after her then? I don't think so. Dude, you can't have two Babe Ruths. I mean, there's not like... I don't know how they got away with that. This is pretty awesome. Why are you fascinated by this topic? Because it's clearly a trend.

9:09

Well, I have all these themes. One is huge businesses hidden in plain sight. That's always something that's interesting to me. I've been eating this, but I never took the time to think, who made this? What's the story of this? Why does this packaging look so different than any other product in the entire store? And why don't more people do this? How can you apply this marketing principle to another category? I just can't believe people aren't doing that. So immediately my brain starts firing, and I start fantasizing about these products I'm going to create before I remember I'm already rich. I don't want to work, and I have way too much work to do any of that. But if somebody ever did it, kudos to them.

9:11

And then I start thinking about... Wait, really quick. Rory Sutherland, who we had on, talked about... What's the name of the soda that has the piece of foil on top? The Italian, also Italian, actually. Oh, Pellegrino? No. You're close. Pella something. It starts with a P. It's that lemonade-type thing, right? It's like a lemon-flavored Italian soda. Is it San Pellegrino? Okay. I thought San Pellegrino was also water, but this is San Pellegrino soda. Yeah. And he was explaining how the tin over it... He's like, that's a really small thing, but they did it to be like, this can is extra clean and special. Fresh. It's never been, yeah. Pop of the seal.

9:38

He was explaining the importance of something fairly insignificant in the grand scheme, and he was explaining the psychology behind it. That really got me thinking. And you're describing the exact same thing with the candy. It's wrapped in a gold tin, and I was thinking about that a lot. I guess it's another Italian company pulling it off. Yeah. So I love the marketing mind. That's always a fascinating thing. I love businesses hidden in plain sight. I'm always a sucker for the richest man in Italy, and I'm like, sure, tell me. There's going to be an interesting story.

9:47

And then I am also interested in these family dynasty businesses because I think the businesses that really withstand the test of time have to do several miracles. One of the great miracles is that it has to get passed down to somebody who doesn't screw it up.

9:48

And what I thought was kind of cool, there was a story about one of the generations. I don't know if it's the current one. By the way, I'm opening one of these up. I don't know if it's the current one or the middle son, but he said something like he didn't even realize they were rich until he was 15 years old. He's like, I had no idea. They kept that from me. It's like, the four housekeepers didn't tip you off? So I don't know exactly how that was possible, but apparently there was something in the upbringing where I think they just spent so much time actually working in the factory and on the product that it wasn't clear. It was more about the work and the craft than it was about the prizes.

9:55

That's awesome. I listened to... The reason I know very little about it, but I know some about it, is because Founders, the Founders podcast, did an episode on the family. It's a pretty old one, so I listened to it a while ago. But I would be curious to see. Would you ever like to listen to Founders without the research? MFM. We're here for you. While you're stuffing your face with food, which sounds great on the mic. Let me hear you chew. This 9 a.m. chocolate is hitting the spot. Dude, I had Sweet Tarts for breakfast. It's intermittent fasting, but you intermittently eat a Ferrero Rocher while you're fasting.

10:24

I want to know the family dynamics. I'm so curious. I think the stories of Succession, the TV show, and the drama, I don't think that is actually the common thing. I think there is a way where you can be harmonious and loving and also good at this whole business thing. It's just less interesting to write or read about that, or make a movie or TV show about it. Harmony, yeah. Yeah. Would you ever like to listen to Founders without the research? MFM. We're here for you. While you're stuffing your face with food, that sounds great on the mic. Let me hear you chew. This 9 a.m. chocolate is hitting the spot. Dude, I had sweet tarts for breakfast.

10:50

It's intermittent fasting, but you intermittently eat a Ferrero Rocher while you're fasting. I want to know the family dynamics. I'm so curious. I think that the stories of Succession, the movie or the TV show, and the drama, I don't think that is actually the common thing. I think that there is a way where you can be harmonious and loving and also good at this whole business thing. And it's less interesting to write or read about that, or make a movie or TV show about it. Harmony, yeah. Yeah. But it would be really exciting to read a book on how they do it effectively. Another family that did it effectively is the Rothschild family. Do you know about those guys?

11:17

I just know the name. I don't know what they did in the family. There's a crazy story where the original clan, and so they're known now as Illuminati-esque, where it's mysterious. But the original story is, I believe, they were in Germany in the 1800s. And the dad was into business and banking, and he had five sons, and he seemed very loving and respectful with them. And he purposely asked them to move, when they became adults, to different countries and do the banking trade that he was doing and teaching them. And that is how they became this amazingly successful European family. But the kids were like, no, he was a really loving guy.

11:39

He taught us good values, and we liked doing this with him. And so I've been reading a little bit about that family as well. Yeah. I don't know if I'm ever going to do that. But I did have a random idea recently that's fascinated me. So I was listening to some interview with the chef from Carbone. And he said something like, the interview actually was a little bit boring. But he said one thing that I thought was pretty interesting. He goes, oh, I was always obsessed with food. I was 12 years old, and I was an absolute foodie. I was always watching cooking shows. I knew about every restaurant. I knew I wanted to be a chef.

12:11

And one of the greatest gifts that nobody really talks about, right, you want your kid to be really good at school or really good at sports, really whatever. Really, one of the best things you can do is figure out what you actually love to do in life. The earlier you figure that out, that's actually the big advantage. I think that was Warren Buffett's advantage. It's Warren Buffett's. It's everyone, if you read these guys. Mr. Beast is like, yeah, at 11 years old, I decided I was going to die a YouTuber. I just wanted to be a YouTuber. That's all I wanted to do. And so he's like, yeah, whatever he is now, 28, I've been doing this for 20 years.

12:23

It's like I've been doing this 17 years now. And so he's literally just spent more time on this than anyone else. Warren Buffett bought his first stock at seven and was thinking about businesses, money, and stocks since he was very young, and had time during that golden window. And when I interviewed Monish Pabrai, I was asking about these books on the wall. He had a whole section on science and neuroscience and psychology. And I go, what's something you really took away from reading a bunch of these? And he goes, we have a certain hard wiring that's baked by the time you're six or seven. Your core nature, your DNA, you kind of know who that person is.

12:42

But he goes, and there's a golden window. And I think the golden window was something like six to 16 years old. And during that 10-year window, if you found something that you can obsess over, and you get free reign to actually obsess over it during that window, you will hyper-specialize when the brain is in this certain period, and you'll become world-class. The rest of your life happens if you really do, and if you really don't. And so he talks about this with investing. He's like, I don't invest in companies where the CEO doesn't have evidence of the lemonade stand when they were 10 or 11. Because if you're an entrepreneur, you were an entrepreneur at an early stage.

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Now, I don't a hundred percent believe this, but I did think it's interesting. And you do see this pattern a lot. Did he have that? Did Manish have that? Yeah. So I asked him that, and he was like, yes. And he goes, it wasn't for entrepreneurship. It was basically for, his dad had a jewelry business or a gold business or something like that. And he's like, basically my MBA was every day my dad would come home and the business was failing. And me and my brother had to figure out something we could try to get this business to not fail, to have enough cash to be in business next month. And so in doing that, he's like, I basically got my MBA when I was eight years old.

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Every day, helping my dad with his jewelry business, working in the store, coming home, hearing the problems, hearing the inventory struggles, the cash flow management problem. If we have all these sales, why don't we have any money? Oh, because there's a difference between revenue and profit, between profit and cash flow. And he's learning these things without knowing the names of them. This sort of intuitive gut learning that's happening during that phase. And for the record, you don't need that to be pretty successful. Not to be pretty, but to be world-class. Yes. I think that that's the advantage that the best of the best of the best have over the rest.

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You're like, oh, in the World Cup right now, it's like Lamine Yamal. And it's like, how come the U.S. doesn't produce players like this? And it's like, well, because at age seven, he went and moved into the soccer academy. And he was there from seven to 17. And guess what? He's amazing now at 18. Which maybe your kid would have been too, had they left the house and moved into the soccer academy at age six or seven. And that's really all they trained and focused on for a long period of time. Are you willing to do that? The book Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell talked a little bit about this.

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At a young age, Bill Gates and Paul Allen, the founders of Microsoft, their school was one of the only schools in the country to have a computer. So he got to mess around with the computer for free, had free access to it after school, for a very long period of time. Furkan, my old co-founder, he would tell me, yeah, his dad worked at a computer company. So when he was five years old, his earliest memory wasn't playing catch with my dad. It was building a printer from scratch. It's no joke that now he can build anything because during that golden window, he did that. Anyways, long way of saying I've thought about how you could be somewhat intentional about this.

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Meaning, if my kid shows an interest in something, I think I'm going to lean in way harder than most people would during the golden window. And I've thought about taking a sabbatical year where I'm just going to pluck him out of school in fifth or sixth grade and just be like, hey, we're going to travel the world, and I'm just going to develop you. I'm going to shape you now, not when I'm 65 and I retire and I have more time, because you're going to be, the cookie's already crispy by then. You know what I mean? I got to do it when the dough is raw. And so I'm thinking about that. Does that sound crazy? No. So it's so funny.

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For my birthday, a friend gifted me the Andre Agassi book. I haven't started it yet, but I was asking him what he learned. Have you ever read that? Andre Agassi's biography. No, I haven't. It's considered one of the best biographies. And I'm not a tennis guy. And my friend and I, neither of us are tennis guys, but he's like, it's so good. And I said, what's the big takeaway? And we're, I'm just going to develop you. I'm going to shape you now. Not when I'm 65 and I retire and I have more time, because you're going to be, the cookie's already crispy by then. What I mean? I got to do it when the dough is raw. And so I'm thinking about that. Does that sound crazy? No.

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So it's so funny. A friend for my birthday, a friend gifted me the Andre Agassi book. I haven't started it yet, but I was asking him what he learned. Have you ever read that? Andre Agassi's biography. No, I haven't. It's considered one of the best biographies. And I'm not a tennis guy. And my friend and I, neither of us are tennis guys, but he's like, it's so good. And I said, what's the big takeaway? And he was like, the crazy thing is Andre didn't even seem like he loved tennis. And he frankly didn't seem like he had superstar energy. He begrudgingly did it, but he was pretty good. And I was like, well, how did he become one of the greats of all time?

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And he said, his dad, his dad was maniacal. His dad saw that Andre showed a little bit of interest, and he just pushed him and just went all in on it. And I was joking, and I was like, okay, so maybe he did or didn't have a good relationship with his father. I'm not sure. But I think that these guys, Serena Williams' dad, Andre Agassi's dad, some of these harsh fathers, they get a lot of shit, but it seems pretty worth it. To have this tiger dad, this tiger mom energy. And I was watching Nadal's documentary on Netflix. Did you see that one? I've seen a little bit of it, yeah. I love Nadal. I love Nadal. His dad was the same way.

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His father was so hardcore about it, and he pushed him and pushed him and pushed him and was his coach. And then there's this other guy named Sebastian Coe, who's a famous runner. Not that many people are going to know who he is, but he had the world record for the mile. And his dad, Peter, was the same way, where they would run, and his father would be in the car with a stopwatch, timing every interval. Behind every great man is a great woman. It's like, and an abusive father. Yeah. And I do think that there's a way that you can do this where you can balance being a good nurturer and also a pusher. One thing.

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I'm not saying I'm going to hyper-train them for greatness on, hey, get up, we're running sprints every morning, whatever, up the hills. What I meant was really, I'm going to give them exposure. Because I think most people, the problem isn't that you found what you love and then you didn't keep doing it. Because when you really love something, it has a great amount of pull. You just do it anyway. I think what most people don't do is they don't really get to walk around Costco and sample the things. And I think that's actually the more interesting thing, is how do you get somebody exposure?

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Because I would say the vast majority of people never even find out if they really love something. Because by the time you, school is such a regimented track, right? You're spending eight hours a day doing the same exact things as every other kid. Did you happen to love photosynthesis? Did you happen to love trigonometry? Probably not. And it's all just funneling you to get into a college. And when you get into a college, and it's about getting a job, by the time you have a job, now you're working and you're trying to pay for life.

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And by the time you're 30, you're like, well, I didn't really get that opportunity to go figure out that actually it was podcasting that I really had an affinity to. I actually really loved that. Or it was whatever it is. Baking. It was this. It was that. It doesn't really, it's hard to even know. And I think most people never even know. And so the thing I want to make sure I do for my kids is get you to at least feel and see what the world is. What's even on the menu of options so that you have some exposure in life. Because I don't think the world by default does a good job of giving you exposure. You and I have a great friend, Ramon. So Ramon Van Meer.

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And Ramon had a difficult situation where he became a single dad when his son was only two years old. And I met Victor when he was, I think, three. Now he's actually a sophomore or junior in college. And Ramon was crazy. Partly he did this out of necessity, partly because he's a really amazing dad. And he would bring Victor, starting at the age of maybe seven, to these really big business meetings. I remember he sold one company when Victor was something like 10 years old. He sold it for close to $10 million. And I remember he would go to L.A. from San Francisco. And he would take Victor out of school and bring him. And Victor would just sit next to him.

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And Victor wouldn't talk, but he would pay attention to the meeting. And afterwards, Ramon would be like, Victor, what's your opinion? What should we do? And then another time, Victor has actually been to China, I think, a couple times. Because Ramon has a company now, Afina, where they have manufacturers in China. And he'll bring him to China. And he'll just sit quietly, and afterwards Victor or Ramon will be like, hey, okay, so what do you think? You think this guy's legit? Should we go with him? Should we do this? And I remember seeing that. And before I had kids, I thought it was awesome. And then after I had kids, I thought it was a blessing, a treasure.

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It changed from this is cool to admiration. Right. To, like, you have gone from being a good dad to a deity to me. You are, like, I can't believe how special and how lucky Victor is to have you. And I remember seeing that, and I'm like, that is the way to have a kid. I agree 100%. Seeing the same thing. Ramon is an amazing dad. And it's not just, I think, because I've watched that. And in the moment, you're just kind of like, well, if a kid is there, didn't say anything. Or maybe even after the fact, what did you think? It was good? It was cool? They're not going to give you some satisfying answer as a dad. Like, dad, I really learned the virtue of hard work today.

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Actually, what I saw was they're never going to tell you the thing. But you just have to trust the process and be like, it's all soaking somewhere. Somewhere in the mind, this experience was imprinting somewhere in the brain in a positive direction. And that if I didn't give them this experience, I would have, in a way, robbed them of some of that exposure. So, yeah, I'm a big believer in that. My kids are really little right now, but I do similar things. That's awesome. Okay, let me tell you another story about someone. You and I, we get invited to some stuff that occasionally is interesting. Most of the time, we both say no.

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But I decided to go to one of these dinners, and it was in a beautiful apartment. And clearly, some guys there were total ballers. But I sit next to this one guy, and he's very unassuming. And I start talking to him, and he's very nice. He's kind of like Dharmesh Shah, one of the founders of HubSpot, very low-key. And he's like, how are you using AI? And I'm like, well, I made a Chrome plug-in that helps you select which jeans fit you if you go to a store, if you like jeans. John, look at my ass right now. Yeah. Tell me to see these jeans. Fit like they were fitted by AGI. Three cities don't have water right now because these pants fit so well. Yeah.

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And I was like, how about you? What are you doing? And he starts explaining some stuff, and it's kind of blowing my mind. And I'm like, wait, who are you? And he says his name, but he doesn't really say what he does. And the guy runs maybe one of the most, if not the top three, financial services businesses in the world. And he's an extremely multi-billionaire. And he's like, how are you using AI? And I'm like, well, I made a Chrome plug-in that helps you select which jeans fit you if you go to a store, if you like jeans. John, look at my ass right now. Yeah. Tell me to see these jeans. Fit like they were fitted by AGI.

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Three cities don't have water right now because these pants fit so well. Yeah. And I was like, how about you? What are you doing? And he starts explaining some stuff, and it's blowing my mind. And I'm like, wait, who are you? And he says his name, but he doesn't really say what he does. And the guy runs maybe one of the most, if not the top three, financial services businesses in the world. And he's an extremely multi-billionaire. And he's the founder of— Extremely multi-billionaire. Extremely. He's so extreme. And I thought, after I started talking to him, I recognize you. You have articles written about you. It's where it's this mysterious billionaire.

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Wait, say his name, and then we'll believe it. Okay, so he's the founder of— Yes. Okay. So one of the most sophisticated financial services businesses. Are you—it potentially is one of the most profitable in its field, making tens of billions in profit. That's almost an intimidating person to me. It's almost like, have you ever—I used to have this old Dell laptop that when it really— when you opened up a few too many windows, the fan would kick on and it would start heating up. I feel like that dude's brain must just be like that. Was there just heat exhaust coming off of him? Yeah.

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I'm closer to a homeless guy in terms of accomplishments and brainpower than I am to this guy. And it was so awesome that this guy walked into this room. He was one of the most quiet guys. He probably talked the least amount. Wait, wait, wait. Before you describe his calves and stuff, what did he say about AI? You said he was blowing your mind a little bit. What did he say? I have to be somewhat vague. He was just explaining how they do it for trading and making financial decisions. But frankly, he clearly was trying to talk at my level, but it was so hard without using the jargon that he had to use. But at one point, I was like, so is your company cool? Why is it cool?

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He's like, well, I think we have a good culture. We pay really well. And the office is nice. And I look up how much they pay, and it's like the highest-paying thing in the world. I think they have the most profit per employee or something. It's crazy, crazy numbers like that. Did they say anything with AI that surprised you? Meaning, oh, I just didn't realize that was possible. Or I would have never thought to do that. Give me a little bit more if you can break off one more piece of bread. Well, what he was explaining, he was like, we actually had been doing this before it became popular. We were doing it in this particular way.

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And then all this new breakthrough technology came out. But it wasn't a surprise to us because we'd been tinkering with this stuff. And he was like, it helps us make decisions within fractions and fractions and fractions of seconds. He was using these time measurements that I didn't even know what that word meant. And he was explaining how they make decisions and how they use AI to make decisions. And he was like, yeah, we've had data centers. We've had all of this stuff before. Now it's more accessible and it's easier. But he's like, we built all this stuff before.

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It was just crazy that someone that is so epic and so world-class at what they do, they made me feel, he made me feel, better than him in a weird way. So he's a great actor too, then. Yeah. Wow. Triple threat. Well, that's why I didn't want to be insulting. I don't think he was acting. I think that he just made me feel good. Well, he had true charisma then, in that he was genuinely interested in other people, not based off some weird power rankings. And when you're interested in people, that makes them feel great. And that's a gift. That's an amazing gift. I think it sounds so simple, and very few people know how to do that.

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And I've noticed that with a bunch of really successful people, the ones that I truly like, they are so curious. They are curious to the point where they will think about silly ideas very seriously and take them seriously. Yeah. I had an embarrassing reduction the other day where I was describing, we went to an event or we hosted an event, and it was like, oh, there's all these different people. I like this person. I really like this guy. Oh, she was really cool. And then I realized, oh, what's the common factor? It's just, I think I like people who like me. And I was so embarrassed by that being true.

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But it was really like, I have a very hard time liking people who I don't feel like me. So the opposite is more true than the first part, meaning I don't love everybody who likes me, but I can't really like anybody if I feel like they don't like me. And I was like, what kind of junior high bullshit mindset is this? And I didn't know what to do with it, but I definitely had that awareness at least. And I was like, I think I should not have that be the heaviest-weight factor in this stuff. Do you ever do that? It sounds so stupid as I say it out loud. No, I don't think that's so stupid.

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I think that Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People, he says the root of everything that you read from me is basically people want to feel important. And if you understand that, then life's cream cheese, life's good. And if you make people feel important, then that is how you win friends and influence people. And what's funny is this guy and I, we left the event together and we mistakenly took a service elevator. And so we get lost in this building for 25 minutes, trying to get out because we took the wrong one and we couldn't figure out the signs. And I'm like, we're like, come on, genius. Get us out of here.

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I was like, how many billionaires does it take to find the exit? And Superman, turn on the laser. And then at the end, I was like, I know that no one can find photos of you on the Internet. I know that you purposely stay off the grid. But want to come on My First Million? And he even dignified it with an, I'll consider it. It wasn't even, are you insane? No, I won't do this. And I just think that to all the up-and-comers listening, Quentin, be humble and be nice and make people feel important. That is a key to life. Well, we should tweak that, right? Because the make people feel important sounds manipulative.

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What's the real, what's the way to do that that's actually real? I would say, be curious. If you're genuinely curious or interested in people, curiosity is one of these grandma's remedies where it's like, oh, I have pneumonia. And it's like, put some whiskey in the pancakes and that'll do it. It's like, well, that doesn't make any sense. And then it works. Curiosity is kind of like that, where almost all these unrelated problems can be solved with curiosity. I'll give you an example. One is what we're talking about here, which is when you're actually curious about somebody, you will appear interested in them because you are interested in them.

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And then they feel interesting, and they feel like you took an interest in them, so they feel an affinity towards you. Great. That's one. This works with yourself too. So a lot of times I'll talk to my trainer, my coach, and let's say I'm feeling bad about something. What most people try to do is they say, don't feel bad. Feel good. It's okay. And don't feel bad is pretty poor advice when you're feeling bad about something. And instead he just says, don't feel bad. Just get curious. And he's like, just lean into it. Get curious about it. What is that? Why do you feel that way? Has that ever happened before?

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And as soon as you start getting curious, it's almost like the cloud moves away. The sun starts to peer through. And because your brain literally shifts state into a more childlike, curious state of mind, it takes the edge off. It takes the guilt or the shame or the self-loathing off of whatever it is you're doing. This works with yourself too. A lot of times, I'll talk to my trainer, my coach, and let's say I'm feeling bad about something. What most people try to do is say, don't feel bad. Feel good. It's okay. And don't feel bad is pretty poor advice when you're feeling bad about something. Instead, he just says, don't feel bad. Just get curious.

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And he's like, just lean into it. Get curious about it. What is that? Why do you feel that way? Has that ever happened before? As soon as you start getting curious, it's almost like the cloud moves away. The sun starts to peer through. Because your brain literally shifts state into a more childlike, curious state of mind. And it takes the edge off. It takes the guilt or the shame or the self-loathing off of whatever it is you're doing. It's so weird. You wouldn't expect curiosity to be a cure for some of these moments or these moods. But it is. It tends to be. And so, just getting curious about something, I would say, is a catch-all cure for things.

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And what's funny is I was a pretty awkward teenager. I would say I'm still a pretty awkward guy. And I went and read books on good questions to ask people to have a conversation. And I even follow these guys on Instagram, how to do it. But the best people I found was that show On the Spectrum, the dating show with autistic kids. And I stole so many questions that I ask people. So if I'm at a dinner party or I'm talking to people, I will always say, what are your hobbies? And it sounds like such a childish thing. You get the best answers. And then I also say, what do your parents think of what you've done? Or I ask a lot about their parents. And they start opening up.

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But I had to learn how to have small talk. Yeah, everybody needs to, I think. Okay, I like that. That's a cool story. Can I take it in a totally different direction? All right, I could talk to you. Let me talk to you about something. It's going to sound sad. And it is sad. But I think it's really interesting. And I had permission to talk about this, but I think it's cool. So you and I had a producer named Ben Wilson. Ben Wilson was our producer for My First Million for a long time. And he now has a podcast called How to Take Over the World. He's got four kids under the age of five years old. It's crazy.

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And six weeks ago, he found out that he has stage four lung cancer, where the odds are not in his favor. But he's got the best doctors in the world, so some crazy things might happen. And he's very optimistic. But I went and met with him yesterday. He's in New York to see a doctor. And I wanted to talk about my experience getting to talk to him. Because this is a very interesting predicament that he's in. Think about this. Six weeks ago, he found this out. So in the six weeks, he moved his house. He sold his home and got a new home closer to the doctor that he's going to. He did a $400,000 fundraiser, which was amazing.

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He got his will and all of his estate stuff together. And he's gone to all these doctor's appointments, so many of them. And I remember talking to him yesterday. And I was like, dude, you've gone through so much. This is so heavy. And he was telling me a little bit about it. And my initial reaction when I heard all of this, I felt extreme sadness. Partially because Ben's a Mormon. So Ben has lung cancer, and it's in his spine and his brain, but started as lung cancer. And he has never smoked. He has never drank. He has really never done anything bad in his life. And I felt like we have an agreement with the universe where we put good in and we should get good out.

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And I was like, this agreement has been broken. And I felt pretty pissed about it. Yeah, I felt very angry. But then I started seeing how he was reacting to all this stuff. And I would put myself in those shoes. I'm like, all right, six weeks ago in June, I find out that I have this illness. How do I react? And I was like, I would go insane. I would be so sad. I'd be so depressed. It was just crazy how calm he was. And what's interesting is that Ben has a podcast called How to Take Over the World, which is about how great leaders become great. And I was thinking about that. And he had this journal with him. And the title of this journal was Zero to 365.

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And I was like, what's this? He was like, I have a journal where I'm going to document every single day. And my goal is to fill this whole thing out. It may not happen, but I'm going to work my hardest to fill this out and make it 365 days. And I pray that there's a sequel to this journal so my kids can read this. But if I can't do it and I meet my maker sooner than I intend to, or I want to, I'm going to be really excited about it. And I remember thinking, I listen to his podcast all the time on how to be great. And I listen to all these podcasts on how to be great. We just did one on how to be great.

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And I was thinking, what's crazy is how much dignity and integrity and bravery this guy is facing this with. And I was like, me or you or, hopefully, everyone listening, the odds are that none of us will face a tragedy like this. But I was thinking, in my day-to-day life, I react to things sometimes in such a horrible way, so negatively and not being positive, or I'm letting little things bother me, or little things distract me from what's important. But I was like, I really should change that because I hope I never face anything like he's facing. But what I've noticed, knowing Ben for a few years, is he's always been a pretty stoic, brave person.

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And I'm like, these little things that I face every single day, they can prepare me for something horrible. And I hope that horrible thing never happens. And if it doesn't, at least I will have responded to my day-to-day life in a way that a great man would. Because what's interesting is seeing him journal about this. And he was showing me a little of the journal. In my head, I was like, I'm seeing a great man be great in real time and respond to the worst thing on earth in the most dignified, wise, and best way I've ever seen. And it inspired me so much. And I was just like, what good can I take from this? How can I be great?

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Even if I don't face a tragedy or if I just live a boring life, how can I be great on a day-to-day basis? Wow. Yeah. That's a great, I mean, that's a great way of putting it. A couple of things that came up. The first is, if you haven't listened already, go listen to his podcast where he announced it. I mean, I listened to that. I probably listened to that two or three times. I listened the first time myself. I listened a second time when my mom was in the car because I wanted her to hear, because I just thought his entire attitude towards the situation, towards what is a very devastating piece of news, is you have every right to be sad. You have every right to be bad.

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You have every right to feel any of the feelings you want to feel. And he had such a different perspective. It made me think a couple of things. The first was, man, I haven't been a religious person in my life. And I think it's because the way my logical brain is, well, I don't know. There's no evidence. It's literally the definition of faith, believing without evidence. And I've always respected religion, but I've never felt it. But when I saw his response and the way he was like, I'm excited to meet my maker. And if God's calling me, then that's, you know, the way it was serving him, I was like, wow, these are the rewards for living with such strong faith.

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Even when the worst news hits, even when anybody else would feel sorry for themselves, he took it very, very differently. And it was such a foundational thing for him. So he said excited.

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And I think it's because the way my logical brain is, well, I don't know. There's no evidence. Literally, the definition of faith is believing without evidence. And I've always respected religion, but I've never felt it. But when I saw his response and the way he was, I'm excited to meet my maker. And if God's calling me, then that's the way it was serving him, I was like, wow, these are the rewards for living with such strong faith, that even when the worst news hits, even when anybody else would feel sorry for themselves, he took it very, very differently. And it was such a foundational thing for him. So he said excited. He told me, and I think he said in the pocket, he goes, I can be excited about this. And I thought that was, yeah, that's so good. Unbelievable. Unbelievable.

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So I thought that was the first thing that really highlighted the virtue and the value of being a person of faith and how, in my own life, I've had the luxury of not having to have that because life goes pretty well without it for me, right? Without having to have faith in certain things. So I thought that really stood out.

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The second was, I think you nailed it. The difference, his podcast is about Napoleon and Caesar and these complicated men who achieved, who conquered. I think it's How to Take Over the World. It's about conquerors. It's about the world shapers. And there's a big difference between achieving greatness and being great. What Ben is doing right now is greatness, but it's being great, not achieving something. And I think there's a huge difference. And I think for myself and most people, we don't really split those out. And it's very easy to set goals. And I remember being young and being like, I want to be Forbes 30 Under 30. This was before it became the FBI watch list. But I remember thinking that would be a great achievement. I want to have a million dollars in my bank. I want to have this. I want to have that when I was 19, 20 years old. And it was all about achieving. And the two people we've talked about, Ramon and Ben, they're great examples of being great, living day to day in a great way. He's really showing his greatness in the hardest time, which is when it matters, when it counts, when it's real.

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And then, yeah, I just hope that there's something, maybe in the age of AI, maybe there's some way that, with the best doctors, with the tech, with the belief, with everything, he does all right. Yeah. And he's, he, like the Brian Johnsons and Andrew Hubermans of the world, they opened up the Rolodex and they put him in touch with all these people. And he's doing all this, the traditional stuff and some experimental stuff. And yesterday he was like, I feel really good. I feel better than I have in a long time.

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Yeah. So it's looking good. But the reason why I wanted to bring this up on My First Million, because I don't think we say this explicitly enough, but we have said it before, which is we talk about being rich here, and we try to say a rich life. And we try hard to let people know that this isn't just about money. It's that it's about defining what life is worth living and how it can be rich for you. And I just want to reiterate that the million in My First Million doesn't necessarily mean dollars, but it means the first unit of richness that you can have in your life. And so that's my public service announcement, but also some of the things that I've learned in talking with him.

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Well, I'm glad you shared that. Ben, we're rooting for you, man. Yeah. He's part of the MFM family. He was our producer for, what, a year or two, something like that?

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Yeah. He had his podcast, and we met through, you put me onto his podcast. You were like, dude, I've been listening to this thing. It's amazing. Then I remember going to the airport, and I was listening to his Edison episode, and it's a three-parter. And I drove to the airport, listened to part one, drove back, listened to part two, and then I just went for an extra drive to listen to part three. And I was like, wow, this is amazing. And I called him and I was like, dude, who are you? What's your story? And then we brought him in. He became our producer, which helped him pay the bills while he was getting his podcast more and more off the ground. Then it was time for him to focus on his pod. We wished him well and still wishing him well. So Ben, get well, man. We're all rooting for you.

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Yes. It was a very, I hope, listener, I hope you don't take this as sad. And I'm sure Ben's going to hear this, but I want to leave on an inspirational note, not sadness. So I hope you guys dug it, and we'll end there. That's it. That's the pod. Thank you.

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And it was on the title of this journal was zero to 365. And I was like, what's this? He was like, I have a journal where I'm going to document every single day. And my goal is to fill this whole thing out. It may not happen, but I'm going to work my hardest to fill this out and make it 365 days. And I pray that there's a sequel to this journal so my kids can like read this. But if I can't do it and I meet my maker sooner than I intend to, or I want to, I'm going to be really excited about it. And I remember like thinking, like I listened to his podcast all the time on like how to be great. And I listened to all these podcasts on how to be great.

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We just did one on like how to be great. And I was thinking, I was like, what's crazy is how much dignity and integrity and bravery this guy is facing this. And I was like, me or you or hopefully and everyone listening, the odds are that none of us will face like a tragedy like this. But I was thinking, I was like in my day to day life, like I react to things sometimes in such a horrible way, like so negatively and so like not being positive or I'm letting little things bother me or little things distract me from what's important. But I was like, I really should change that because I hope I never face anything like he's facing.

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But what I've noticed knowing Ben for a few years is he's always been like a pretty stoic, brave person. And I'm like, these little things that I face every single day, they can prepare me for something horrible. And I hope that horrible thing never happens. And if it doesn't, at least I will have like responded to like my day to day life in a way that a great man would. Because what's interesting is like seeing him like journal about this. And he was like, show me a little of the journal. In my head, I was like, I'm seeing like a great man be great in real time and respond to like the worst thing on earth in the most dignified, wise, and like the best way I've ever seen.

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And it inspired me so much. And I was just like, what good can I take from this? How can I be great? Even if I don't face like a tragedy or like if I just live a boring life, like how can I be great on a day to day basis? Wow. Yeah. That's a great, I mean, that's a great way of putting it. Couple of things that came up. The first is, you know, if you haven't listened already, go listen to his podcast where he announced it. I mean, I listened to that. I probably listened to that two or three times. I listened the first time myself. I listened a second time when my mom was in the car because I wanted her to hear because

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I just thought his entire attitude towards the situation, towards what is, you know, a very devastating sort of piece of news is you have every right to be sad. You have every right to be bad. You have every right to feel, you know, any of the feelings you want to feel. And he kind of had such a different perspective. It made me think a couple of things. The first was, man, you know, I haven't been a religious person in my life. And I think it's because the way my, you know, just my logical brain is sort of like, well, I don't know. There's no evidence, you know, like it's like literally like the definition of like faith is kind of like believing without evidence.

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And I've always respected religion, but I've never felt it. But when I saw his response and the way he was like, you know, I'm excited to meet my maker. And if, you know, if God's calling me, then that's, you know, the way it was serving him I was like, wow, this is the, this is the, these are the rewards for living with like so strong faith is that even when the worst news hits, even when, and when anybody else would feel, you know, sorry for themselves, you know, he, he took it very, very differently. And it was like such a foundational thing for him. So he said excited. He told me, and I think he said in the pocket, he goes, I'm, he goes, I can be excited about this.

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And I thought that was like, yeah, that's so good. Unbelievable. Unbelievable. So I thought that was the first thing was like really highlighted, like the virtue and the value of like being a person of faith and how like, you know, I've in my own life, not, I've had the luxury of not having to have that because life goes pretty well without it for me, right? Like without having to, to have faith in, in certain things. So I thought that was, that really stood out. The second was, I think you nailed it. The difference, you know, his podcast is about Napoleon and Caesar and these complicated men who achieved, who conquered. I think, you know, it's how to take over the world.

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It's about conquerors. It's about the world shapers. And there's a big difference between achieving greatness and being great. What Ben is doing right now is greatness, but it's being great, not achieving something. And I think there's a huge difference. And I think for myself and most people, we don't really split those out. And it's very easy to set goals. And, you know, I remember being young and being like, I want to be Forbes 30 under 30. This was before it became like, you know, the FBI watch list. But I remember thinking like, that would be a great achievement. I want to have a million dollars in my bank. I want to have this.

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I want to have that when I was 19, 20 years old. And it's like, it was all about achieving. And the two people we've talked about, Ramon and Ben, they're great examples of being great, living day to day in a great way. He's really showing his greatness, you know, in the hardest time, which is when it matters, when it counts, when it's real. And then, yeah, like, you know, I just hope that there's something, you know, in the, maybe the age of AI, maybe there's some way that, you know, with the best doctors, with the tech, with the belief, with everything that, you know, he does all right. Yeah.

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And he's, he's, he's, he, he, like the Brian Johnsons and Andrew Hubermans of the world, like they like opened up the Rolodex and they put them in touch with all these people. And he's doing all this, like the traditional stuff and some experimental stuff. And yesterday he was like, I feel really good. I feel better than I have in a long time. Yeah. So it's looking good. But I, the reason why I wanted to bring this up on my first million, because I don't think we say this, this explicitly enough, but we have said it before, which is we talk about like being rich here and we try to say a rich life. And we try hard to like, let people know that this isn't just about money.

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It's just that it's, it's about defining what life is worth living and how it, how it can be rich for you. And I just want to reiterate that like the million in my first million doesn't necessarily mean dollars, but it means like the first like unit of richness that you can have in your life. And so that's sort of my public service announcement, but also like some of the things that I've learned in talking with him. Well, I'm glad you shared that. Ben, we're rooting for you, man. Yeah. He's part of the, he's part of the MFM family. He was one, he was our producer for what, like a year or two, something like that. Yeah.

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He had his podcast and we met, we met through, you, you've put me onto his podcast. You were like, dude, I've been listening to this thing. It's amazing. Then I remember going to the airport and I was listening to his Edison episode and it's a three-parter and I drove to the airport, listened to part one, drove back, listened to part two. And then I just went for an extra drive to listen to part three. And I was like, wow, this is amazing. And I called him and I was like, dude, who are you? What's your story? And then we brought him in. He became our producer, which helped him pay the bills while he was getting his podcast kind of like more and more off the ground.

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Then it was time for him to kind of like focus on his pod. We wished him well and, you know, still wishing him well. So Ben, get, get well, man. We, uh, we're all rooting for you. Yes. It was a very, I hope, listener, I hope you don't take this as sad. And, uh, I'm sure Ben's going to hear this, but it was, I, I, I want to leave on a, on a, on a inspirational note, not, not sadness. So I hope you guys dug it and, uh, we'll end there. That's it. That's the pod. Thank you.

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